There is almost a Stepford Wife like feel to the talks/books/blogs/lectures about being the good Army Wife. It is eerie, listening to the woman I know talk about meeting their husbands at the door, not voicing their opinions; simply waving the flag and mopping the floor in heels and pearls.
And there is no way I can squeeze myself into that mold.
I am too independent, too willing to voice my opinion, too willing to stand up for myself, too willing to fight for what I believe in. I may not be marching in a protest against the death penalty, or sending my life savings to the Tibetan Freedom Fund anymore, but I have not given up the convictions, the beliefs, the philosophy, I have grown during my life.
I came to the Sergeant as an independent woman, capable of taking care of herself, who stood on her own two feet, paid the bills, took care of her family, and fought for whatever she believed in. I have never had a problem going up against the Sergeant when I was mad, I've rarely swallowed my feelings, and I've always been willing to debate anything and everything with him.
The person I am, the good, the bad, the brains, the boobs, all of me, is what the Sergeant loves. He liked that I picked some esoteric phrase in latin for my email address, that I'm still goofy enough to watch cartoons and laugh, that I stand up for what I believe in, that I stand up to him, when I need to.
I may be HOOAH ARMY!!! somedays, but that is only because I support the Sergeant, and his career, with everything in me. I would be the same way no matter what job he was in. But I am still my own person, I still think the same things, feel the same way, I did not surrender my voice when I said my vows, and he did not snap shackles around my wrists at the same moment he slid the ring on my finger.
I have heard it said that now, in this modern era, as our soldier husband's fight a modern war, that the Army wants a modern wife. A HOOAH Fiercely Independent Army wife. And that's the Army wife I will be.
Not some robotic Stepford like imitation.
~Jennifer
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i take it you didn't like my blog lol
ReplyDeleteI LOVE this! Well said. <3. Mind if I post it to my wall? I know of a lot of girlfriends would enjoy this post as well. :)
ReplyDeleteWell Said!!! Most of these women define themselves by what their husbands do for a living. They have no backbones and very low self esteem. They have no Aspirations other than sitting online all day being hateful and unsupportive to other wives. Many times they BS about going to school ect. Yet all they do is pop out babies and spend all day on FaceBook. It's sad and pathetic.
ReplyDeleteyour blog blows. ain't nothing wrong with being a good wife and that doesn't mean that we don't still have fun. and who actually refers to their husband as "sergeant"? sounds like you have a bland personality..he is your husband so come up with more created nickname.
ReplyDeleteThank you THANK YOU! I swear I found this seconds after complaining about the women in my FRG being drones just living and breathing for their soldiers. Where would they be, what would they have to complain about and live for (and what underwear would they buy, for god's sake?) if they didn't have soldiers and camo and mundane Army Wife phrases? Thank you. I have found an "army wife" who is a married woman and has not defined herself by her husband's career choice.
ReplyDeleteOk.. let me answer this in the order they were posted.
ReplyDeleteWhether I liked your blog or not, this one was not about yours. It's my reaction to the attitudes several members of my family have, on how I should live my life, and the kind of person I should be, now that I'm married to the Army.
By all means, go ahead and link it. I write this mainly for myself and a small handful of friends, but if you think of anyone that might appreciate it, I appreciate the honor :)
I have never been the woman who defined herself by who her husband is, or what her husband does. I am defined by who I am, by the person I see in the mirror, by all the good I try do, and all the bad I try not to do.
If you don't like the blog, then don't read it. There's a small box in the upright corner of your web browser with a red box, and inside that red box is an X. Since you don't agree with it, click it, and go your way.
You're welcome :) Having grown up in the Army, I've seen my fair share of stereotypical Army wives, and I swore up and down I'd never be that way. I can be HOOAH ARMY!!!, and I do support my husband with everything in me, but I also have my own life, my own hopes, dreams, wants and needs, outside of him.
Those Army Wives Do It With Hooah Facebook Whores and Bitches!!
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ReplyDeleteConsidering the husband is working, and doesn't have much time to get on the computer, no, it's not him.
ReplyDeleteAlso, if he was going to say something, I know he'd post with a screenname, and he'd probably call you something more creative. And in Spanish. :)